Sometimes you decide how you want things to be. You do everything you can to make it happen that way but it just doesn't. Continued efforts feel like spinning your wheels and oddly difficult or stagnant. When these types of scenarios come up, try to notice that whatever it is just isn't for you right now. If your deliberate actions aren't bringing about the desired results, think about why that thing might not be meant for you in this moment. What do you need to notice, learn, or feel instead? Maybe just trust that you'll understand in time.
Conversely, notice when things line up and fall in to place. Unexpected goodness falls in your lap...a certain situation is progressing with ease...details line up perfectly. It may not be what you expected but you can trust that these things we're meant for you and enjoy.
Trusting in the timing of your life doesn't let you off the hook to try, but letting it guide you does free you up to relax, appreciate the bigger picture, and have more peace and patience.